I love popcorn. It’s not a mild fondness—I really, really love
popcorn—old fashioned, popped in oil (or bacon grease), butter-slathered
popcorn. It’s an obsession shared by my brothers and sisters as it was
the only staple snack to be found in our house—more dictated by the
economy of having a large family than any nutritional obsession on my parents’ part.
So it was indeed a great sacrifice
to give up popcorn for Lent which we did as a family each and every year. It’s
not easy to go without one’s favorite food in the sun-deprived frigid
cold days of a Midwest winter. But boy did that first handful of popcorn on
Easter taste better than ever.
Such are the traditions I remember
when I think of my childhood Lenten experience. How proud I was to accomplish
my “giving up” goal—never wavering. As an adult I’m
not so sure I can admit to such success but am always impressed by the resolve
my own children and their friends have at this time as they forgo chocolate
and video games without bending the rules or searching for that Lent loophole.
I have to admit I miss that childhood
fervor and sense of accomplishment. I want to go beyond my usual popcorn sacrifice
and really connect to the season
So this year I’m not going
to “give up” anything. Instead I’ve decided to make a concerted
effort to strengthen my dedicated prayer time each day for others’ intentions—not
just my own [and by proclaiming this here I am more likely to be successful].
The great Catholic priest and teacher
Henri Nouwen said “The paradox of prayer is that it asks for a serious
effort while it can only be received as a gift. We cannot plan, organize or
manipulate God; but without a careful discipline, we cannot receive him either.”
Growing Awareness
By Mary Jane Doerr
Director of Diocese of Kalamazoo
Safe Environment Program
Child Sexual Abuse is one of those topics that
everyone thinks they have all the facts on based on their own preconceived
notions and upbringing (I admit I was part of that group). In reality what
many believe to be facts are really myths and misconceptions. One such
misconception is this one: that teens dressing provactively attract unwanted
adult male attention and that the male is then accused of child sexual
abuse.
I have a friend who whenever the
subject of child sexual abuse comes up, says, “But 15 year old girls
didn’t look like that when I was 15. I can see how a guy could think
a 15 year old was 21. It’s not fair.” And I always respond with “That
is not what we are talking about.”
It is not hard to see where he is
coming from. In today’s sexualized culture, teen age girls look far older
then did my counterparts at that age. And while it is advisable for parents
to have conversations with their daughters that point out the hazards of dressing
provocatively and why wearing those types of clothes are not a good idea, being
mistaken for a 21 year old is not the most common form of sexual abuse. To
blame the girls for dressing older doesn’t make anyone safe and it doesn’t
recognize the scope of the problem.
Child sexual abuse is committed
by adults who use children for their own sexual gratification —whether
or not those children are dressed provocatively. Victims range in age from
infants to 18 years and are both male and female. (It stops at 18 only because
18 year olds are now legal adults. But even 18+ year olds are used by older
adults for their own gratification.)
We may think of the offender as
the “creepy guy” we keep away from our children, but more often
they are upstanding members of our communities; people we know, respect and
trust. Recent studies suggest sexual offenders are known and trusted friends
are responsible for 60% of the offenses. Family members are responsible for
29% and strangers commit 11% of abuse. One in ten males and one in four females
are sexually abused before they become adults according to some estimates accounting
for more than 40 million survivors of child sexual abuse. Child sexual abuse
can happen to anyone, anywhere.
Those are the facts of child sexual
abuse. Caring, responsible adults can protect children from offenders no
matter who they are by understanding the nature of child sexual abuse; learning
the warning signs; and taking the necessary steps to prevent it. If you have
not already attended a Protecting God’s Children (VIRTUS) awareness
session I invite you to do so now and learn how you can protect the children
in your lives.
The
Other Six Days
by Jane Knuth
You Never Know Who Might Be Listening
The St. Vincent de Paul Society was founded by college students who
were praying like crazy over their Bible study. Their goal was to
figure out if Catholics made the world a better place or not.
After noticing that Jesus seemed to
spend inordinate amounts of time with people in misery, it occurred to them that
He might have been dropping a clue. They walked out onto the streets of Paris
and started fighting poverty in order to glorify God. The Society has been going
strong ever since.
Last year, at our annual retreat,
we decided to re-apply ourselves to prayer.
Some of us began to pray together
every morning before we opened the store. Others stopped at noon, took the phone
off the hook, invited all the customers to gather round, and sent petitions heavenward.
And the most disorganized among us clasped hands before leaving at the end of
the day. Better late than never.
We were talking to God, but it turned
out He wasn’t the only one listening.
One day a customer was browsing for
a long time among the knick-knacks when she stopped, and asked our cashier, “Aren’t
you people going to pray today?”
The volunteer gathered the rest of
the crew and they prayed with the customer. The lady’s cat had died that
day, and feeling upset, she came to St. Vincent de Paul because she knew that
we would pray with her.
Another day, a regular customer came
into the store, and announced that she had the day off of work.
“You’re spending your
free day at St. Vinnies?” I asked in surprise.
She said, “This is the anniversary
of my son’s death so my boss gave me the day off. I don’t belong
to a church, but this seemed like the next best place to come.” We prayed
with her, too.
Another customer told us that she
comes every week because the store is a place where she feels peace and kindness.
She is struggling with health problems and she takes comfort in praying with
us. When we prayed with her that day, she never mentioned her own needs during
the petitions. She prayed for us and our work, instead.
Do Catholics make the world a better
place? Not necessarily. But praying Catholics—that’s a real opportunity.
Living the Liturgy
By Fr. Robert Johansen
Pastor, St. Stanislaus Parish, Dorr
“Lent and the Contemplation of the Lord”
We were made for contemplation.
That may sound somewhat ethereal and other-worldly, but it is nonetheless true.
The pagan philosophers knew this centuries before Christ: Aristotle wrote in
the 4th century B.C. that one of the purposes of man’s existence is contemplaion.
The great Church fathers and theologians advanced upon this understanding by
recognizing that the proper object of contemplation is God. St. Thomas Aquinas
taught that our complete happiness can only be found in the contemplation of
God.
Now, contemplation isn’t just
for saints, philosophers and theologians. We are all, according to our different
gifts and circumstances, capable of contemplation. If you have ever looked
up into the starry sky at night and tried to fathom the mystery of the heavens,
you have engaged in contemplation. If you have ever held a newborn child and
wondered at the mystery and gift of life, you have engaged in contemplation.
Contemplation will lead our minds and souls to the things of heaven, but it
is meant for all us here on earth.
The liturgy is meant to be an opportunity
for contemplation. The great convert and theologian Fr. Max Thurian wrote that “the
Eucharistic liturgy is an act of thanksgiving; consecration, a memorial and
an offering... which invite the celebrants and faithful to turn towards the
altar of the Lord in an attitude of adoration and contemplation.” Pope
John Paul II wrote, “Jesus awaits us” in the Eucharist, “the
sacrament of love”, and urged us not to “refuse the time to go
to meet him in adoration [and] in contemplation full of faith.”
The age in which we live is not
friendly to contemplation. We tend to value action, progress, “getting
things done”. We often value enthusiasm over wisdom. We are practical,
and contemplation seems very un-practical. To many of us, contemplation seems
a little too close to doing nothing. But contemplation isn’t “doing
nothing”. It is allowing God to do something to us. And in order for
God to reach us, to penetrate our minds and souls, we need to make some space,
some room, a quiet place in our lives and hearts, so we can hear and see Him.
It seems to me that we sometimes
allow this preoccupation with action and enthusiasm to obscure or even drive
out altogether the contemplative aspect of the liturgy. In our concern for “active
participation” (in itself a good thing), we sometimes let a spirit of
busyness invade our celebrations. We evaluate the quality of the liturgy by
how many people have how many things to “do” in the liturgy. We
are tempted to judge how “good” a liturgy is by the decibel level.
But active participation must begin in our hearts and souls — without
the interior dimension all of the activity in the world will be for naught.
And so, in this season of Lent,
we are given an opportunity to make a quiet place for God by stripping away
some things. We are urged to do penance, to fast, to give things up, so as
to allow the space those things take up in our minds and hearts to be filled
by Christ. The Church’s ancient custom is to make our liturgical celebrations
more simple and austere: simpler, quieter music; less decoration in our churches.
The object is to make our liturgies more contemplative, to give us more room
and quiet in which to see and hear the Lord.
Pope Benedict XVI, in a message
he gave before becoming Pope, wrote that by contemplating beauty we come to
contemplate Christ. He quoted the Russian novelist Dostoyevsky, who had written, “The
Beautiful will save us”. But, Pope Benedict explained, “people
usually forget that Dostoyevsky is referring here to the redeeming beauty of
Christ.” To see and know this beauty we must have quiet and peace in
our souls. We must, the pope explained, “learn to see Him.” The
school for learning to see Christ is the liturgy: so in this season of Lent,
let us make time for peace and quiet. Let us make our celebration of the liturgy
more austere: let us put aside busyness and be still with God. Let us turn
our hearts and minds wholeheartedly to “adoration and contemplation
full of faith” of Jesus Christ who awaits us.